what are your thoughts?

[rmr]

i know this belongs in the links sections, but i really rather have a "fast chat" about it.....do you think these people are ok???

my feelings are hurt (http://www.cuddleparty.com/rules.html)

[bealeblues]

when the logo predominately shows feet, it can't be OK

[moel]

i think that belittles cuddling to a high degree

[rmr]

ok fine...but you're not answering the most important question.....would you do it??;)

[bealeblues]

i'd need to see the release forms first

and the guest list

and what beers they had on tap

[priceyfatprude]

The guest list is the most important.

[sparticle]

Yep -- gotta see the guest list -- that would pretty much make the decision.

[bealeblues]

of course, the guest list gets more flexible depending on the number of beers....

[rmr]

ok tell me who we could put on the guest list that would make you do this???

[bealeblues]

well we know who your guest list would be from another thread-- just not will ferrell...

[sparticle]

Originally posted by rmr
ok tell me who we could put on the guest list that would make you do this???

Richie Sexson, Bobby Howry, Brendan Shanahan and Joe Sakic. And a player to be named latah.

[lapietra]

'kay - there's no beer...

I'd do it. :)

Wish they were in Cali... :(

[masterofNone]

a friend of mine used to throw an annnual "squirt gun and lingerie" party. you had to show up in pajamas and bring a squirt gun. it was fantastic.

[Aphrodite]

I don't think I like that.

I would feel somehow like I just walked into some cheesy 1960's key swap party. I'd end up with some ick wanting to cuddle me and it would be my sisters boss or someone I would feel worried about when I yelled..."Don't Ever do that to me again, unless asked or invited!"

No I don't want to be invited to any party where the theme involves sleepwear and removal of my personal body space.

[Avalon]

I believed the guy who ultimately became my first husband about the "cuddling" thing. Yeah, right.

It is what it is people; a precursor to swapping. :rolleyes: A wolf in sheep's clothing is a wolf, none the less.
If Hugh Jackman throws one of the soire's, I would rethink my policy however.

[bealeblues]

so to answer the ultimate question, no, i wouldn't do it, despite the release forms, beers on tap, guest list, nothing....

[red]

hahahahaa eew.

rule #7 no dry humping
rule #15 clean up after yourself


:eek:


I would not do this. My cuddle quotient is met perfectly.

[Frieda]

it's a farking orgy for beginners!

[lapietra]

Originally posted by Frieda
it's a farking orgy for beginners!
Far be it from me to get all serious on y'all, but no, it's not. If you read the description, you'll see that sex is expressly forbidden during the sessions, and anything that "comes up" is dealt with in a friendly but non-sexual way.
It's non-sexual physical contact, something that is sorely lacking in American society, something I could definitely use some of...
Think about it. In America, people are growing more and more isolated. Men are worried about embracing in public because of fears people will think they're gay. Hell, my *mom* was worried about walking in public with our arms around each other because she was worried people would think we were gay!! :eek: :(
The only physical contact we (single people :p) get is brief hugs with our families, when we actually *see* our families, and to have sex.
I'm not saying we should be all over each other all the time - blech - but there is a definite need for this sort of thing.

*climbs off soap box*

[ally]

yeah, but, but, but...

[Frieda]

i was only joking lala! :)

personally, i don't really feel like going to a cuddle party or something.. wouldn't feel comfy..


edited to add: what's wrong with real orgies anyway :eek:

[lapietra]

Originally posted by Frieda

edited to add: what's wrong with real orgies anyway :eek:

Well... nothing, I guess, if everyone's emotionally and physically healthy...

But for those of us who are single (and therefore have a serious lack of cuddle opportunities, and don't have a taste for picking up strangers in bars) this would be a great solution.

I'm just sayin'... :D

[ally]

i guess it really would just depend on who was there.

johnny depp
bradd pitt
& me

hmm, that ought to do it!

[rmr]

Originally posted by lapietra
Well... nothing, I guess, if everyone's emotionally and physically healthy...

But for those of us who are single (and therefore have a serious lack of cuddle opportunities, and don't have a taste for picking up strangers in bars) this would be a great solution.

I'm just sayin'... :D

I am single and therefore lack "cuddle opportunities" but I don't think laying on the floor with a bunch of strangers a proper substitute but that's just my opinion. I am all about personal space and I cannot even describe to you how violated I would feel doing this.

If you're single and craving physical affection I say hug your friends, your family and get a pet.....but again, that's just me.

[ally]

maybe someone should ask them if kids are invited too, then you'll know for sure what the whole thing's about if they say no. hmm, actually, it could make it worse if they said yes. ok, not a good plan.

[zero]

http://www.cuddleparty.com/images/CuddleParty200pWebFeet2.jpg

my thought is the exact cuddlage-dynamic is unclear but the person with the socks is an outsider - sort of hopeful, sad.

[rmr]

Originally posted by zero
http://www.cuddleparty.com/images/CuddleParty200pWebFeet2.jpg

my thought is the exact cuddlage-dynamic is unclear but the person with the socks is an outsider - sort of hopeful, sad.


lol

[lapietra]

Originally posted by rmr
I am single and therefore lack "cuddle opportunities" but I don't think laying on the floor with a bunch of strangers a proper substitute but that's just my opinion. I am all about personal space and I cannot even describe to you how violated I would feel doing this.

If you're single and craving physical affection I say hug your friends, your family and get a pet.....but again, that's just me.

Well - pets do help - but what if you're someone who is allergic, or can't have pets where you live? What if you're friends aren't cuddly? (Mine aren't.) What if you live far away from your family, or have a family that just isn't into physically demonstrating affection?

From reading about this, it sounds like one of the possibilities of this experience is to break through a person's percieved problematic need for personal space - the key words here are *perceived* and *problematic* - I'm not saying that need for personal space is problematic, and I have a high degree of respect for it, but there are some who may feel they have a problem with being touched for whatever reasons, and may want to work through it - combined with a need for physical closeness that they can't find in their regular lives.

[Frieda]

heh i get so annoyed when people that i don't know touch me.. especially at work. despite my angry "walk up to my desk and i'll kill you"- look some people manage to do just that and touch my shoulder or something.. especially the CEOs are good at that. me not like that.

i can't imagine being with a group of people on the floor or something and cuddle! ewwwww! maybe it's a state of mind.. idunno.. at least not while sober. maybe if certain drugs were involved or something.. but it's not a state of mind i can achieve without any chemicals..

[ally]

i know what you mean lala, i know i have a cat & a dog & a child & they can all be very affectionate but it's not like big propper cuddles. i'm lucky enough to live opposite my mum & she's someone who need lots of hugs from her family, so i get a regular cuddle fix, which i'd really miss. th person whose cuddles i miss most, is my best friend. they're the kind of hugs that have absolutly no sexual undercurrent or anything, just the kind of hugs your grandma used to give you as a kid! the thing that i find hard to get to grips with (no pun intended) with this whole cuddle party thing is that there's bound to be one or too people there who have a whole different idea in their minds. maybe organise a cuddle party with just women & gay guys! i could go with that idea.

[Coffee]

Last time I "just cuddled" it turned into sex. I can not cuddle with a woman and not get a raging boner. The idea of putting myself in that position with a "no sex" rule would be out of the question....I'd go nuts (or blue-nuts rather).

uggh..and with strangers??? Yikes...no waaaaayyyyyy.

*cough*, not that i could'nt use a bit of "cuddling" about now though. :(

[sparticle]

In all seriousness, I think my difficulty with it is that I want to cuddle with people because I know them well and feel close to them and safe with them, not get to feel safe with them and close to them and know them well because we have cuddled. That may not make sense, and it's sad that we live in a world where people need to reach out by such an artificial means, but, no, I wouldn't do it. I'd feel weird.

I mean, I AM weird, but I'd feel uncomfortable.

Or something. Ah, nevah mind. LOL

[zenbabe]

NO DRY HUMPING!!!!!!!

lol...

[masterofNone]

i really don't want to read about coffee's raging boner. i really don't.

[moel]

Originally posted by masterofNone
i really don't want to read about coffee's raging boner. i really don't. quoted for posterity

[Magpie]

Originally posted by masterofNone
i really don't want to read about coffee's raging boner. i really don't.
Some things are just worth repeating.

[priceyfatprude]

Originally posted by ally
maybe organise a cuddle party with just women & gay guys! i could go with that idea. Yes indeedy.

LOL @ MoN's post.

[Magpie]

Although I wouldn't get an "raging boner" like Coffee, I find spooning (man behind ahemm) very erotic and have no interest in inviting a stranger to errr, get back there. :)

I totally understand the need for human touch, but this is too much for me. Plus I'm pretty sure there'd be the scent of Pacholli in that room somewhere (no offense to anyone here) and that would send me hoofin from the get go anyhow :p

Beale, this just might be right up your alley... with your love of flannels and all ;)

[trisherina]

I predict a LOT of raging boners, and other erections. And ... need I go on?

[Zaftig]

How did I get sucked into the discussions of Coffee's raging boner??

[Avalon]

You should know better than to use the words "sucked" and "raging boner" in the same sentence!!!:eek:

HAHAHHAHAHA

[Zaftig]

Damn it! I totally set myself up without realization!

[Coffee]

I was gonna reply to that...but...someone would.

I'm in enough trouble already. :( :D


edit to add...I love how some of my most embarassing posts end up at the tops of pages. :D

[fodder]

Originally posted by rmr
i know this belongs in the links sections, but i really rather have a "fast chat" about it.....do you think these people are ok???

my feelings are hurt (http://www.cuddleparty.com/rules.html)

that sounds absolutely disgusting

[rmr]

moel's birthday reminded me of this thread --

i wonder if they allow dry humping yet??

[rmr]

http://www.cuddleparty.com/images/erinpress.jpg

[Con ate dog]

It won't load. How does it work, exactly? If someone asks you to cu-

uggh, I HATE that word! If some strangers asks you to, are you allowed to say "Um, you? No thanks. and no offense"? And how could that NOT offend?

Isn't this why people have pets? And female relatives?

Coffee, if you ever go to one of these things, you might think of gaffing.

[rmr]

found it

"You continue to open new arenas up for me in regard to my own sexuality and my love for women, as well as in learning to love myself and my body."

http://www.cuddleparty.com/images/nytraining4.jpg

[rmr]

^^^ is that mon on the bottom?? maybe that's where he went -- now i'm getting worried.

[zero]

http://www.cuddleparty.com/images/CuddleParty200pWebFeet2.jpg

it still makes me sad when i look a the black socks guy


that person isn't really getting much fun-having at the party

[rmr]

^^ an outsider ;)

[zero]

http://www.cuddleparty.com/images/erinpress.jpg

^they're only cuddling with their legs

[rmr]

i'm craving spaghetti o's