Inspired by Eiggam

[bealeblues]

i've just read the post where eiggam met her love over the internet.... so, who has met someone live that they've met over the internet??? and how did it turn out??

i'll go first--- i have not had a live encounter with someone i met over the internet

[Deviate]

i met some friends up in Minneapolis a few years back. it was funny - the quiet ones online were talkative in person and vice versa. we had a nice picnic lunch and that was the end of that.

my mother was just the Matron of Honour at a wedding of someone she met online. they're good friends.

i get anxious to meet internet people in person. it's just that no one lives, or travels to my neck of the woods.

-st.

[beckstra]

Well, I did have a relationship with someone over the internet, but once I met the kid in person, I realized that nothing was there. I mean, yeah, with words, we had chemistry, but in person, I couldn't stand him. He never came across as condescending, but once I met him, I never felt like a person. I felt like two inch tall Tom.

However, I met one of my best friends via the internet as well. Should I ever get married, Kate will be here in all her bridesmaid glory. :)

[Zyle]

I met my boyfriend over the internet about a year and a half ago, bit more actually. He came over for the first time New Year last year, and we've been back and forward ever since. He's coming to live here in a few months, so you could say it worked ;)

I've met a lot of online friends in real life too, (10 or so, in and from various countries) usually with my bf as we know them all from the same place we met :) It's always been great fun, the Amsterdam meeting was particularly wicked *g* 5 of us got together. It was so much fun, a RL version of our IRC channel! We're planning on another one at Easter with even more of the gang, I hope that works out. One day when we're all rich we'll have a US one and meet the other half of the crowd :)

[Eiggam]

You do make me blush! (I am not prone to inspiring people!)

I have to admit I was skeptical at first. But after we had talked for quite a while, somehow, I just knew he wasn't an ax-murderer.... (famous last words!)

Honestly, I am not one to usually do such things... but I was a safe girl... I throughly checked him out... otherwise, I wouldn't have gone to meet him... too many freaks out there roaming the World!

[Red Princess]

Beale, if you meet with someone you met on the internet they would be arrested, you being 13 and all

[Deviate]

and i'm one of them....

-st.

[bealeblues]

oh yeah, i keep forgetting that... maybe that's why i've had no luck

oh wait-- i thought all the pervs liked 13 year old girls...

[AllegroNg]

I, too, have been guilty of cyber pimping. Let. Me. Tell. You. They're Creepy! Some of the scariest people ever are those I've derived from the internet! Oh.. ugh..:hides under bed:

Cyberpimping once in a while is ok. But there are people who can only meet lovers from the internet. That's scary.

BTW - ZAY??? So, we're Zay-monkeys. Pbbt!

[NekoPunk]

hmm... i kinda did... it was a real life thing, i knew him in person... but we could only talk or see each other online. it was weird. in real life we had to pretend that we weren't dating. hoo boy was that hard. every time i saw him i wanted to hug him, but i couldn't. that sucked. oh well, it worked for a good while, at least. ^_^

[quintondotcom]

I have met a bunch of people live I met on the Internet. Over the last year since I shed my pre conceptions and connotations of it's only something for the recluse or socially innept, I've met maybe... 65% of those I have dated on the Internet? Yeah, that sounds about right. My experience is that it's feast or famine. They are either online to meet people cause they actually are incapable of meeting people else wise, or they are super cool people who tend to be pretty open minded, laid back, socially developed, and professionally ambitious. A bunch of them are like me, they just work from home so they have to be creative about how they meet people. I met someone I dated for 6 months earlier this year on the Internet. I guess if it gets that far, the meeting part was a success right? At that point it's about compatibility or incompatibility.

[zenbabe]

ive met a bunch of people, well, maybe not a bunch, but quite a few. I dated one of them for 6 months, our first date was new years eve last year, anywho, my current baby doll is someone I knew in L.A when I lived there, I had a huge crush on him at the time but couldn't do anything about it because I was living with my boyfriend at the time, so he moves away, I move away and I hadn't heard from him in 3 years. One day I get an email from him, he was living in San Diego now and he saw me on an online dating site...we have been together ever since..awwwwwww :p

[quintondotcom]

that's a cool story zen. what's meant to be will be...

i think online dating is like third world dating...

centuries ago you would maybe meet 2 or 3 potential mates your age your whole life, and your marriage was probably arranged for what was good for your family.

fast forward to the 1800's, you probably met a handful of people your age your whole life, so you're like, "her teeth are straight, she'll do."

Like that's a big enough pool to really find compatibility?

Now we can pre qualify people on age, geographic desirability, pet preferences, spiritual practices, looks, lifestyles... it's a wholesale improvement in the process. the dating pool is phenominally larger with online dating.

[Deviate]

people have become more picky, Q, and mostly because we can. granted, most of the relationships in the 'dark ages' were not loved-based, but a lot of the relationships around now are based on false love.

many people are so busy searching for the ideal that they can't see the incredible people in front of them. i mean, consider the 'nice guy' scenario.

tit for tat, i figure.

-st.

[dinzdale]

On-line charcteristics are as good judge as ever 'cos, let's face it, meeting the right person is still a complete lottery anyway.

[bealeblues]

yeah-- nice guy scenario--- but that works to an extent if you have multitudes of patience, but you also have to be a little devious as well---- see, you can be the friend that the girls turn to when the boyfriends act typically male-- you don't hit on them (directly of course), you listen, you justify their feelings, etc., and then, before they know it, they've fallen for you after a number of months

now that gets tricky in and of itself b/c once you've established these emotional parameters, the only way you go is down when you yourself become the boyfriend

and then there is another 'friend' who she complains to about you, and the cycle continues.....

[amanda]

Ah- the "damsel in distress" character. My mother plays that one pretty well. Indeed, it's one of her key roles.

I personally prefer the "aloof wallflower" character myself.

Huh, you didn't know women did that? Bosh.

[dickieC]

Can I come and water your roots, A.?

(oops, wrong thread again...darn)

[Red Princess]

I think DickieC just made himself blush again. Hey Beale, Break the cycle,where does the 'caring listening guy' go when they get involved with someone?

[dinzdale]

he should go down the pub like any other red-blooded chap.

[amanda]

that makes two of us. :o

That's the trouble of being an "aloof wallflower"- it never prepares one for compliments. ;)

[bealeblues]

Hey Beale, Break the cycle,where does the 'caring listening guy' go when they get involved with someone?

well, he slowly vanishes away, of course.... you know men, we all want what we can't necessarily have, plus it's the thrill of the hunt and chase and once we have obtained our objective, the thrill is diminished and you can imagine the rest..... plus you have that general fear of commitment, etc....

that's a gross overgeneralization b/c there are many many times when it actually works out forever (i had a 7 year success story along these lines until the 7 year itch came up) but usually, the guys that play this angle are doing just that-- playing an angle not used by many guys very successfully b/c of the lack of patience and imagination

[Red Princess]

oh too bad, saddness washes over me,,, all hope is not lost as long as one hopeful heart remains

[bealeblues]

oh, it's completely possible to have platanoic male friends and i wasn't suggesting that all males who act simply as friends are using this angle-- i have few female friends that i would never sleep with in a million years and it's not b/c they are trolls or anything

[bealeblues]

*falls on floor with a nasty thud*

hey, i don't make the rules! maybe now i can get workers' comp from the nice bump on my head...

*begins to file the necessary paperwork*

[PHPGoddess]

OK, as the 26 year old mother here I'm stepping in on the original subject of this thread to post a WARNING for you young singles out there, this just out today. Better read it ;(

13 year old found dead with Man....Authorities believe Kacie met Fuller in an Internet chat room about a month ago and that he likely deceived her into believing he was much younger. (http://famulus.msnbc.com/famulusgen/ap12-06-095936.asp?t=apnew&vts=12620021304)

Please be careful!

[Red Princess]

I saw that item in the paper this moring and it creeped me out. We pretend it's all fun and games but this world is a very very dangerous place. think I'll go home and hide under the bed

[amanda]

Pish-posh. Red P, get out from under that bed this instant.

Listen- the world is as dangerous as you make it to be.

If you want drama in your life, you call it to you. If you truly want happiness in your life, you call it to you as well. Even with the odd occasional roll of the dice, it's just as easy to have the story turn out great as it is for it to turn out shitty.

The worst boogie man in the world is the one that we create in our own minds.

[masterofNone]

boogie


heh.

[masterofNone]

I'm hoping to get there in my 50s... if not then my 60s. But CERTAINLY by my 70s.


who'm I kiddin?

[quintondotcom]

right, the point amanda brings up is stellar. when i golf, i say, "don't hit the tree, don't hit the tree, don't..." where do i hit it? into the tree. if all i think about's the green, i'm golden.

i also gotta think i am exposed to all kinds of freaks in every day, non-Internet life too. for all i know, i shop for produce next to some dude who's raped or killed - all the time. just because the internet doesn't allow you to see the person you're talking to's face, doesn't mean you can't employ common sense and the same dilligence you use in every other day life too.

[amanda]

:o aah, shucks. I'm just glad you guys let me post at all. :)

But after a hard day, that was really nice to read.
Thank you.

[bealeblues]

i will say that it's nice to get the female perspective in a non militant/psychotic/overly emotional/add your female stereotype here/ way, and nyc and amanda both are head of that class

[masterofNone]

head of the "militant/psychotic/overly emotional/add your female stereotype" class or the "non militant/psychotic/overly emotional/add your female stereotype" class? This unclear antecedents thing always confuses me.

[bealeblues]

i'm meaning it in a positive way, of course