Lessons for the American male

[nycwriters]

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[Zyle]

you had a good night then?? :rolleyes:

[amanda]

Ahh, sounds like there's a story here.

Yeah sure, I'll add a couple of coppers, as my evening was spent in this general direction as well....

Guys, you will get far by acting self-confident, even when you don't feel it- but DON'T read that as cocky, overbearing and/or egotistical. There's a line. Don't push it.

There are times and places for things- sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Relax and enjoy the moment. You'll BOTH know when it is right.

If she's not interested, leave her alone.

But I've got some things to say to the women also...

Yes, you are beautiful. But everytime you look in the mirror to check, the less you beautiful you seem.

Men aren't inherent bastards- we have a heavy hand in that more then we'll ever know.

Have some respect- if the girlfriend is hurting, leave the boyfriend alone. Let them figure it out for themselves.

[amanda]

I had this stashed away, waiting for a good moment to share. This thread seems like the best time.

For the women and the men.

Portrait of woman

Must present alternatives.
Change, but on the condition that nothing changes.
That is easy, impossible, difficult, worth trying.
Her eyes are, as required, now deep blue, now grey,
black, sparkling, unaccountably filled with tears.
She sleeps with him as one of many, as the one and only.
She'll bear him four children, no children, one.
Naive, but gives the best advice.
Weak, but she'll carry.
She has no head, so she'll have a head.
reads Jaspers and women's magazines.
Has no clue what a nut is for and will bulid a bridge.
Young, young as usual, always still young.
Holds in her hands a sparrow with a broken wing,
her own money for a long and distant journey,
a chopper, a poultice, and a glass of vodka.
Where is she running, perhaps she is tired.
But no, only a little, very, it's no matter.
She either loves him or she's just stubborn.
For better, for worse and for love of God.

-Wislawa Szymborska

[bealeblues]

**peeking my head in, hoping not to get kicked again.... wink**

[masterofNone]

Stuff like this makes me really glad to have sons. I think its easier to raise boys to be gentlemen than it is to worry about daughters and all the abominable behavior out there. If I had daughters, the thought of them walking across a parking lot late at night would give me nightsweats.

When I was raising my kids, and I was tickling them, if they said "stop" I always stopped so that they would learn from even that simple behavior.

[quintondotcom]

sorry to hear your evening woes nyc.