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nycwriters
10-05-2004, 09:13 PM
Do you think it's possible to be SO turned on by someone's mind that their appearance really doesn't matter to you?
I just finished having this conversation about Sartre and Hegel, email interchange, with this person I just met (no not the 21 East Village kid) ... and I am so turned on right now I may have to excuse myself to the bathroom. :o
I swear to God, a stellar intellect, one that can do circles around me, is SUCH a turn on.
Have you ever experienced this?
Or conversely, have you met someone who's just so absolutely beautiful, but no brains, and that's done it for you?
Or, or ... have you talked with someone without having met, and then were disappointed or turned off BY meeting them?
Spicy Jack
10-05-2004, 09:15 PM
Yes.
lapietra
10-05-2004, 09:18 PM
Yes.
zenbabe
10-05-2004, 09:18 PM
from my side of the world....
Hotties are usually assholes with no brains at all...good for bootie calls. I know there are smart ones out there that are nice, but in my experience they are all arrogant pricks. This makes them ugly.
I have always become attracted to guys that I could talk to, even though they aren't the drop dead kind you would leer at walking down the street.
I find they become attractive in my eyes, the more I get to know them.
sparticle
10-05-2004, 09:18 PM
Yep. And that's all I'm going to say about it. ;)
nycwriters
10-05-2004, 09:20 PM
There are many questions for those single "yes's" there ladies.
Extrapolate.
Spicy Jack
10-05-2004, 09:21 PM
oh sorry.
Yes.
Yes.
Yes.
:)
and I'm exstrapping on anything. hahaha. okay, not funny.
lapietra
10-05-2004, 09:32 PM
Too much to say right now... I'll try to elaborate later ;)
sparticle
10-05-2004, 09:36 PM
//I swear to God, a stellar intellect, one that can do circles around me, is SUCH a turn on.
Have you ever experienced this?//
Yep.
//Or conversely, have you met someone who's just so absolutely beautiful, but no brains, and that's done it for you?//
Nope.
//Or, or ... have you talked with someone without having met, and then were disappointed or turned off BY meeting them?//
Yep.
A guy's sexiest organ is between his ears. It helps if he's also moderately physically attractive. I have personal quirks about physical attractiveness (EVERYONE does). But a guy who's not only extremely smart but a good abstract thinker and who has a sense of humor -- well, that's the guy for me. If he loves physics AND metaphysics, can converse about Dadaism and Bauhaus and Prairie style and Frank Lloyd Wright and organic philosophy of architecture and yet has common sense and common enough sensitivity to understand structural engineering and like baseball and ice hockey and if he plays music or sings, look out. *sigh* And if he's also a techie, a programmer, a Trekkie or a sci-fi fan, double look out. :)
Aphrodite
10-05-2004, 10:01 PM
Do you think it's possible to be SO turned on by someone's mind that their appearance really doesn't matter to you?
Yes, but I don't necessarily want to have sex with them, I just want them to keep stroking my brain. If they have a spark in their eyes that reflects the one in their brain, then they are often attractive anyway.
I swear to God, a stellar intellect, one that can do circles around me, is SUCH a turn on.
Have you ever experienced this?
Yes.
Or conversely, have you met someone who's just so absolutely beautiful, but no brains, and that's done it for you?
Once. It left me unsatisfied.
Or, or ... have you talked with someone without having met, and then were disappointed or turned off BY meeting them?
Yes. You can develop an image of what they are like and they may not match the image. Some people are charming or witty on the phone or the internet, and yet when you meet, you discover that they cannot look you in the eye (*stare at your chest*), or they have poor manners (*park in wheelchair parking and 'hock a loogie' in the parking lot*), or don't deal with people respectfully.
I once went out with a very famous architect. A blind date...We had spoken on the phone and he seemed nice and educated and well travelled. He turned out to be a little egomaniac. Talked of his passion and his lovers. Snapped his fingers for the waiter then asked for tomato soup, and a small freshly baked roll, with milk on the side (skim, not 1%)and told him to make sure that the soup boiled. He actually asked me..."So, how do you like 'The Zack' so far?" I told him it was late and I must go home. He said he wanted to take me to Egypt and show me the world. I said "Thanks, but no thanks". I was home by 6pm.
Zaftig
10-05-2004, 10:01 PM
In answer to your first two questions, that would be yes and yes! Sim and I met online, on a message board, years ago. Before I ever seen a picture of him I knew that he was the most amazing person I’d ever meet. I told myself, just wait, wait until you see a picture and meet him before you trip over your own feet. At first sight of his picture, he had this major, unruly beard going on. I totally didn’t care. When we met I had drove 8 hours north to the Hamilton, Ontario airport where he flew into from Alberta. After consulting on the phone, IM, email for 6 months the time came to see if all of these feelings were true. In the middle of the airport this 6’6” god of manliness came striding to me and swept me up in a kiss that I could still feel. From the first words we spoke online, to this day he still the most handsome man I have ever met. If I never had eyes to see he would always be that to me. Needless to say though, he’s never had the bushman beard again. ;) :D
Or conversely, have you met someone who's just so absolutely beautiful, but no brains, and that's done it for you?
Thinking of a stereotypical, society generated idea of beautiful, no. If they have all of those looks and no brains they could never do it for me. But if you build a magical time machine and could go back in time, when I was much younger, don’t ask me that question when I’m drunk!
Or, or ... have you talked with someone without having met, and then were disappointed or turned off BY meeting them?That would be a big, fat YES!
Originally posted by sparticle
But a guy who's not only extremely smart but a good abstract thinker and who has a sense of humor -- well, that's the guy for me. If he loves physics AND metaphysics, can converse about Dadaism and Bauhaus and Prairie style and Frank Lloyd Wright and organic philosophy of architecture and yet has common sense and common enough sensitivity to understand structural engineering and like baseball and ice hockey and if he plays music or sings, look out. *sigh* And if he's also a techie, a programmer, a Trekkie or a sci-fi fan, double look out. :)
AMEN TO THAT!!! :D
you guys can stop talking about me now
priceyfatprude
10-05-2004, 11:56 PM
LOL
Originally posted by moel
you guys can stop talking about me now
i was just thinking about you and something you owe me :rolleyes:
don't worry
also a few nights ago i had a dream about you
what was your dream about me.......that i was as hot in person as i am on this thing??? BECAUSE I AM......THIS AIN'T NO DREAM MOELIE.....THIS SHITE IS FOR REAL!!!!
i'm still waiting for that thing you owe me :(
i was always pretty bad regarding child support
i dont remember what the dream was about, except that we were having fun and i felt weird/guilty the entire next day
i'm sorry i did that to you :(
nycwriters
10-06-2004, 02:17 AM
DON'T STOP THINKING ABOUT TOMORROW!
trisherina
10-06-2004, 02:41 AM
Originally posted by nycwriters
Do you think it's possible to be SO turned on by someone's mind that their appearance really doesn't matter to you?
It's possible for me to be influenced towards attraction by someone's intellect, certainly, but not if their actions don't match. Truly skilled rhetoricians don't resort to invective, bullying, or mockery, for instance, and won't impress me.
Much as I may appreciate someone like Stephen Hawking, there is no parallel universe in which I would wish to boink him.
I swear to God, a stellar intellect, one that can do circles around me, is SUCH a turn on.
Have you ever experienced this?
Every day. I married the brightest, as well as the kindest and most moral, man I ever met. And he has no neck, which is just icing. :p
Or conversely, have you met someone who's just so absolutely beautiful, but no brains, and that's done it for you?
Unfortunately, even the most rudimentary sort of foreplay involves some sort of discussion, and doughheads don't do it for me. Perhaps if I were suddenly rendered aphasic by a stroke.
Or, or ... have you talked with someone without having met, and then were disappointed or turned off BY meeting them?
I've met many such people, though I'm a better judge of character the older I get. People can edit themselves much more rigorously in text messaging than they can in person, which can change first impressions... but doesn't tend to hold up over the long haul.
JesusTitties
10-06-2004, 05:18 AM
ive usually found that those who feel surprised when coming across someone who can intellectually run circles around them, are the arrogant ones themselves.
Clytie
10-06-2004, 10:27 AM
Originally posted by nycwriters
Extrapolate.
LAUGHS -- you sound like my brother. (one of his fav words)
o and by the way YES!
Odd how a average looking guy can go from ok to dazzling when you find out he has a brain...its quite enjoyable ;)
geeks make great boyfriends!
odd that the men arent responding in quite the same way as we are...perhaps they DO only care about nice boobs and a cute butt
Klynne
10-06-2004, 10:22 PM
Originally posted by nycwriters
Do you think it's possible to be SO turned on by someone's mind that their appearance really doesn't matter to you?
Yes, he was a complete nerd, but by the end of the conversation I wanted to...Well you know.
Or conversely, have you met someone who's just so absolutely beautiful, but no brains, and that's done it for you?
Yes. And we ended up....Well you know. He lasted for about two weeks, and although the sex was good, he bored me out of my mind, and I quit seeing him.
Or, or ... have you talked with someone without having met, and then were disappointed or turned off BY meeting them?
Yep, I was on a dating service, and when we met, wow, neither of us wanted to have anything to do with each other.
Chemistry is a strange thing.
nycwriters
10-08-2004, 07:14 PM
Ah well, I suck.
When it came down to actually seeing what he looks like, he just didn't do it for me.
I'm a superficial asshole, it seems.
*kicks self*
sparticle
10-08-2004, 07:17 PM
Originally posted by nycwriters
Ah well, I suck.
When it came down to actually seeing what he looks like, he just didn't do it for me.
I'm a superficial asshole, it seems.
*kicks self*
No you're not. I've had that happen. If the guy doesn't do it for you, he doesn't do it for you. I've been turned on by guys who were so not my type it was scary, certainly not conventionally handsome, and I've been utterly unimpressed by guys with whom you'd think it'd be all systems go. It's chemistry. There's no "good" or "evil" to it -- ya click or ya don't.
drivinmissdaisy
10-08-2004, 10:17 PM
In answer to your first two questions, that would be yes and yes! Sim and I met online, on a message board, years ago. Before I ever seen a picture of him I knew that he was the most amazing person I’d ever meet. I told myself, just wait, wait until you see a picture and meet him before you trip over your own feet. At first sight of his picture, he had this major, unruly beard going on. I totally didn’t care. When we met I had drove 8 hours north to the Hamilton, Ontario airport where he flew into from Alberta. After consulting on the phone, IM, email for 6 months the time came to see if all of these feelings were true. In the middle of the airport this 6’6” god of manliness came striding to me and swept me up in a kiss that I could still feel. From the first words we spoke online, to this day he still the most handsome man I have ever met. If I never had eyes to see he would always be that to me. Needless to say though, he’s never had the bushman beard again.
That is a very sweet story
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