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lapietra 12-17-2003 02:17 PM

I'd like to get your opinions and stories on the subject of pursuit of a dating partner, specifically femme-initiated.
I know that throughout the history of the Western world, it's usually been that the girl sits around and looks pretty, and hopes the guy notices her... then she plays hard to get for awhile (maybe) until she's sure he's serious... I also know there's supposed to be some new rules now, that it's okay for the girl to do the pursuing... but I'm not so sure if that's just a nice idea that some feminists started but maybe goes against human nature...(?)

So tell me - guys, have you ever been wooed by a girl? Didja love it or hate it? Are you still with her? Wimmens - have you ever successfully gone after a man you were interested in and had it turn out well, maybe even after some initial resistance? Or not?

fodder 12-17-2003 04:05 PM

i'm a girl (hello, bows) but it probably depends if the girl is annoying or not, like all things.

so i voted they have to go about it in a different way
which is unannoyingly.

lapietra 12-17-2003 04:16 PM

So are you saying it's okay if guys go about it in an annoying way? :p

malina 12-17-2003 04:40 PM

it's always been simultaneous and i wouldn't have it any other way

( neither pursuing a guy that doesn't pursue me, nor being pursued by someone i can't get excited about does anything for me )

fodder 12-17-2003 05:35 PM

well, sometimes it takes pursuit to realize you like somebody

no, i meant girl-annoying about it (like all emotional and dramatic)
pursuant guys are plenty annoying, but i thought this thread was about girls

(edit: i just realize the above sentences are obvious and dumb so ignore them, please)

rmr 12-17-2003 05:47 PM

i'll pursue to a point.......but i agree with fodder......there's a very fine line between pursuing a guy and being an emotional, crazy or dramatic chick.

ps don't ignore the obvious......i mean if you really have a gut feeling that someone is not into you.........well then at least in my experience they usually are not.

zenbabe 12-17-2003 06:16 PM

Iv'e never pursued a guy because I guess I never met someone I felt I wanted to pursue. I did ask a guy out once that I met at a party because I heard he was super shy. Date bombed though and I ended up with huge blood blisters on both of my pinky toes. I couldt wear shoes gor 2 weeks! I never saw him again...

masterofNone 12-17-2003 06:27 PM

"We pursue that which retreats from us"

The Tao of Steve

zenbabe 12-17-2003 09:11 PM

I am just to shy...

jaymirror 12-18-2003 07:31 AM

Girls just do what they feel. Guys the same. If anyone annoys me i tell him/her. If i'm annoying to someone i will eventually understand.

"Bite carrots."
- The tao of Jay.

Madonna'sBite 12-18-2003 11:44 AM

Girls should just chase each other and let the boys alone.

masterofNone 12-18-2003 11:47 AM

or just let us watch. or videotape.

red 12-18-2003 12:51 PM

Who the hell is Steve?

I think the age of the guy being pursued would have a factor. I mean, wouldn't older men know themselves better and be more comfortable with a woman making the first move?

malina 12-18-2003 02:30 PM

though shalt not generalize! ;)

masterofNone 12-18-2003 02:57 PM


Originally posted by red
Who the hell is Steve?

The Tao of Steve is a fine, fine movie.

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