for the sad only, don't ruin your good mood
 

it is 7:30 on saturday night and my date cancelled (again) i quit , it is not worth it anymore, there is no point, i just can't do this

dutch males are the same. i've been dating this guy for over 6 months, i used to spend almost all my weekends there. the last few months, he was always cancelling dates. "oh, i'm so sorry, but i already had an appointment with my sister/brother/parents/etc, i totally forgot".

haven't called him in 2 weeks. he has called me once, sent me 3 emails and has sent me a sms message on my cell. haven't replied to those, and i'm not going to either.

it's hard, but i'm probably going to feel better in a few months. you'll feel better too! have some fun with your real friends, with people that give you the feeling that you are worth it. people who do appreciate you! trust me, you'll feel better in a bit! :)

i don't know about that, peg.. i've never dated someone that didn't act like i described in my last post. or maybe that was bad luck! :p

From my experience, the second you stop looking, a good one finds you..

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Stalker laws come in super handy sometimes...

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i am in a badf place with this sort of thing right now so bear with me, if you are not interested say so right out , don't be a dick unless you get an ego thing from girls chasing you, ignoring phone calls is just shitty

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um, if she calls again, pick up the phone, answer her questions and be done with it, it's the least you can do...

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then why are we even discussing this? Move on man...

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that's what i'm here for babe...my work here is done...

eliasaltman:

you're actually the kind of person that i describe in my first post in this thread. in my opinion, you are now officially an assh0le.

feel free to change at any time.

Re: Re: dating for real
 

Normally I am an advocate of playing games when it comes to giving advice to the guys who want to date the women i work with... mainly because i hear about all the games they play and feel that it is thier just deserts... but under the assumption that no ladies here would play games... i have to agree with nyc.... be straight... why play games? if you had a good date tell her... call her the next day... hell, one up that, stop by the local bageleria and get some breakfast and fruity coffee... stop by her place and feed the poor girl that only had a salad on the first date... give her a pedi while she watches that show with all the old women... you know, the view or the angle or whatever it is called... take her shopping afterwards and then ask her to marry you... if that doesn't stop her from calling I don't know what will.... :)

just so everyone knows even more of my personal business, my cancellation date called me yesterday and was very apologetic about the situation and asked if he could make it up to me. i was ready to kick him to the curb. but to be fair stuff happens sometimes that is unavoidable, so i said ok you make it up to me you you why you....so he did the saga continues...
meanwhile back t the ranch, me eliasalt whoever you are, you are a classic selfish little prick and i don't like you, grow up

Think she's excited by it?

Think it's giving her much confidence?

I wonder if she'll find it so "comedic"?

Maybe she ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, (God knows why), but clearly if she got to know you better she'd realise what a jerk you are. Maybe you're doing her a favour.

You big selfish asshole.

I hope you're right Peg, and for once I hope I was wrong in my judgment.

Otherwise he is a BIG asshole rather than just a small one.

hehehehe....but i find the little trouble maker amusing!!

nyc, i appreciate your concern, than you. from what he was telling me sunday i believe that he knows he is lucky and that he almost went out with the trash. no sense in beating him up over it, i believe him and i am not easily snowed, been downthat road before
anyway i am glad i am not the only one who thinks eliassaltman is bahving badly, he can come back anytime and explain himself. tell us he was only kidding, but if he was only baiting us to get a reaction then he is still a jerk

laughing at trouble

laughing at beale, laughing at trouble

laughing at the whole thing and glad i don't live in utah

lauging at rimsey lauging at me while i laugh at trouble

calls for a new thread, no?
let us all laugh at the silliness on the world

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i reiterate my previous statements adding only that we are not bitter just tired of stupidity

well rounded
 

This is really a topic we should be having clear conversation about, not just a negative comment every couple of minutes. There is a lot to learn from each of our opinions and I'd like for someone else to give a little more. hfys

No phone call = no thanks

I would rather have that than have someone lead me on.

I went thru this w/a guy who had a thing for me. I made it clear to him that I was not, nor would i ever be, interested in him that way. He said that was ok, we could still be friends. I didn't see how that could be possible, but I took his calls & tried to be his friend. Somehow, how much he wanted to bang me would creep into every conversation. (surprise, surprise)

I stopped taking his calls. Granted, I'm not usually home when he calls, but I feel that returning his call would give him that glimmer of hope that he needs to keep pursuing me.

And I don't feel that's fair to him. I'd never have sex with him, and it's impossible to spend time w/him as he's in Philly & I'm here. But even if we were in the same city, it would be counterproductive. I'm not interested in him that way. Period. Hanging out w/him or keeping up contact w/him would only be giving him false hope.

Some of my friends said I should tell him point blank exactly why he shouldn't call me anymore. While I can see the point in that, I don't think it's in anyone's best interest to be called up & told
a) how undesireable you are
b) exactly WHY someone doesn't want to go out w/you

No one needs their shortcomings listed for them, in detail. That's just wrong.

Elias you are a trip!!

first time for everything
 

be sure that I don't plan on making a habit of ending relationships in this way--it's just like I said, the possibility of that coming up in conversation would be worth avoiding the call all together. I might mention, again that I recieved a call early enough in the morning to wake me up and then shortly thereafter.. another call. truthfully it kinda freaked me out. and again, the two calls late that night didn't help it any.

Yes. It was the 4am phone call, along w/the previous call I received @ 1:30am that sealed the nail in the coffin.

we're not going to hell
 

I'd like to think that I'm not responsible for the fragile confidence of my every acquantance. I hadn't spent enough time with the person to feel at all invested in a relationship. Respect and attraction weren't present in the time spent. Simply making that many calls in a day and continuing is disrespectful to yourself. If anything, as a result of this she raised her standards and tolerance against those who obviously don't care for her.

nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. and don't even try to come around on this one, you're ego just won't stand for it.

nyc -> "Interesting how you proffer such choice of words."

fluff it up, nyc.. check your usage of 'proffer'--someone check me but I think the above line is pretty weak. What did you mean by it anyway?

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waffling
Function: intransitive verb
Inflected Form(s): waf·fled; waf·fling /-f(&-)li[ng]/
Etymology: frequentative of obsolete woff to yelp, of imitative origin
Date: 1868
1 : EQUIVOCATE, VACILLATE; also : YO-YO, FLIP-FLOP
2 : to talk or write foolishly : BLATHER