Bman, 'lurkery' and 'lukkucairi' are different things. I know you're probably feeling your loss acutely now that she doesn't invite you over to sort her boxes any more, but you have to get over it. But not with 19 guests at a time! World-class brephophagist or not, 19 is too many.
My strength is as the strength of eight --
My heart is nearly pure.