to tell or not to tell

[zenbabe]

Ok, so, my gramma's funeral is coming up right after xmas, and they asked J to be a pall bearer, which is nice because he was feeling guilty since we were going to go up there so he could meet her.

But I just found out that the guy that took my virginity is also going to be a pall bearer. [list=1][*]Should I tell him in case someone says something, which might very well happen?[*]should I not say anything since it might make him feel wierd and hope to God nobody says anything?[/list=1]