why do men make babies then leave? - ZEFRANK.COM

malina · 07-12-2003, 04:02 PM

dear sara,

sadly you have to kiss some frogs before you find a prince. very few people stay with the first person they truly love for the rest of their lives.

when i married my husband, i thought it'd be forever. honestly and truly. he would not hurt me. he would not leave me. of course not! how silly! ( we loved each other you see )

8 years into our marriage i found out that he was having an affair. ouch! should i die now? no no. i had two kids. of course i couldn't die.... but what now? in the painful painful discussions that followed i found out about 2 more affairs.

what now?
what the fvck now?

i tried to kick him out, but couldn't do it. i still loved him. we had two kids....... i didn't really do it "for the kids" ( i don't believe in that ) i just wasn't able to do it.

it took me 8 more years to leave him! some of it was good, some bad. i left him because i was thinking of the kids. and of myself. i had lost myself.

i live alone now. with 2 kids. my kids are much older than yours, but still everything is tough. but i'm so much better now! my husband and i are friends. i don't have the problem that you are having ( i'm assuming he doesn't see the kids ) and bless every dad who takes care of his kids! i understand the torment that you're in, the constant "why?"....

i cannot add to the comments and advice that has already been posted. i'm here to show you: yes, you will get better! there are no rules for these things. but you can make it to the other side.

i'll be thinking of you and wish you the best!

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07-12-2003, 04:02 PM	#19
malina leaving Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: up on the hill Posts: 6,013	dear sara, sadly you have to kiss some frogs before you find a prince. very few people stay with the first person they truly love for the rest of their lives. when i married my husband, i thought it'd be forever. honestly and truly. he would not hurt me. he would not leave me. of course not! how silly! ( we loved each other you see ) 8 years into our marriage i found out that he was having an affair. ouch! should i die now? no no. i had two kids. of course i couldn't die.... but what now? in the painful painful discussions that followed i found out about 2 more affairs. what now? what the fvck now? i tried to kick him out, but couldn't do it. i still loved him. we had two kids....... i didn't really do it "for the kids" ( i don't believe in that ) i just wasn't able to do it. it took me 8 more years to leave him! some of it was good, some bad. i left him because i was thinking of the kids. and of myself. i had lost myself. i live alone now. with 2 kids. my kids are much older than yours, but still everything is tough. but i'm so much better now! my husband and i are friends. i don't have the problem that you are having ( i'm assuming he doesn't see the kids ) and bless every dad who takes care of his kids! i understand the torment that you're in, the constant "why?".... i cannot add to the comments and advice that has already been posted. i'm here to show you: yes, you will get better! there are no rules for these things. but you can make it to the other side. i'll be thinking of you and wish you the best!