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Old 03-19-2003, 12:01 AM   #31
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This is really a topic we should be having clear conversation about, not just a negative comment every couple of minutes. There is a lot to learn from each of our opinions and I'd like for someone else to give a little more. hfys
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Old 03-19-2003, 12:44 AM   #32
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No phone call = no thanks

I would rather have that than have someone lead me on.

I went thru this w/a guy who had a thing for me. I made it clear to him that I was not, nor would i ever be, interested in him that way. He said that was ok, we could still be friends. I didn't see how that could be possible, but I took his calls & tried to be his friend. Somehow, how much he wanted to bang me would creep into every conversation. (surprise, surprise)

I stopped taking his calls. Granted, I'm not usually home when he calls, but I feel that returning his call would give him that glimmer of hope that he needs to keep pursuing me.

And I don't feel that's fair to him. I'd never have sex with him, and it's impossible to spend time w/him as he's in Philly & I'm here. But even if we were in the same city, it would be counterproductive. I'm not interested in him that way. Period. Hanging out w/him or keeping up contact w/him would only be giving him false hope.

Some of my friends said I should tell him point blank exactly why he shouldn't call me anymore. While I can see the point in that, I don't think it's in anyone's best interest to be called up & told
a) how undesireable you are
b) exactly WHY someone doesn't want to go out w/you

No one needs their shortcomings listed for them, in detail. That's just wrong.
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Old 03-19-2003, 12:51 AM   #33
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Old 03-19-2003, 01:04 AM   #34
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be sure that I don't plan on making a habit of ending relationships in this way--it's just like I said, the possibility of that coming up in conversation would be worth avoiding the call all together. I might mention, again that I recieved a call early enough in the morning to wake me up and then shortly thereafter.. another call. truthfully it kinda freaked me out. and again, the two calls late that night didn't help it any.

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Old 03-19-2003, 01:10 AM   #35
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Yes. It was the 4am phone call, along w/the previous call I received @ 1:30am that sealed the nail in the coffin.
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Old 03-19-2003, 01:41 AM   #36
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Talking we're not going to hell

I'd like to think that I'm not responsible for the fragile confidence of my every acquantance. I hadn't spent enough time with the person to feel at all invested in a relationship. Respect and attraction weren't present in the time spent. Simply making that many calls in a day and continuing is disrespectful to yourself. If anything, as a result of this she raised her standards and tolerance against those who obviously don't care for her.
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Old 03-19-2003, 01:50 AM   #37
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nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. and don't even try to come around on this one, you're ego just won't stand for it.
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:18 AM   #38
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nyc -> "Interesting how you proffer such choice of words."

fluff it up, nyc.. check your usage of 'proffer'--someone check me but I think the above line is pretty weak. What did you mean by it anyway?
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:27 AM   #39
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:28 AM   #40
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:30 AM   #41
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quote from earlier: "nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. "
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:31 AM   #42
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:35 AM   #43
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I think you're desparate to make a point and/or to back me into a corner on this one. You can't go to bed until you feel confident and obove all, on top of this topic. Listen, lose the sweatpants and go to bed. Nothing will be solved in you staying up past your bedtime.
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:37 AM   #44
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I like to feel obove people too. Don't leave me out.
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Old 03-19-2003, 02:38 AM   #45
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nobody 'waffled' and I feel this topic is really coming around to teach all of us something.. but for god sakes don't let yourself feel good about it.
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