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Frieda · 08-25-2013, 05:29 PM

thanks everyone, i really appreciate your kind words-- it helps a lot!

Frieda · 08-30-2013, 06:42 PM

Tomorrow will be the hardest day of my life. Pfft.

brightpearl · 08-31-2013, 12:21 AM

^What's up?
I think we can see your real heart around here, and it seems good, and strong. Whatever it is, you can learn to carry it. What can we do to help?
Much love to you.

Frieda · 08-31-2013, 12:42 PM

My mother passed away this morning, it went very quick. She was ready and calm. I'm so happy for her that she doesn't have to suffer anymore. I miss her so much.

Hyakujo's Fox · 08-31-2013, 11:38 PM

So sorry to hear that.

I know what a strange and shocking place the world will seem like today. Nothing to do but to accept as you can, to feel as you feel and to endure as you must. I will be thinking of you.

hugs and love to you

Frieda · 09-01-2013, 07:18 AM

^thank you, it helps..

brightpearl · 09-01-2013, 11:06 AM

Hfoxy's advice is very good. I promise that the day will come when you can piece things back together a little, when your first thought of her is a happy one rather than a memory of illness, but for a while it will not be so, and that is okay. Just do your best. Really, you don't even have to worry about whether you are doing your best, because you just are. Find real people for real hugs, though I am glad our little virtual ones help a bit.

I am thinking of you.

YsaPur EsChomuw · 09-02-2013, 03:16 PM

I'm really and sincerely sorry. Lots of love and lots of hugs, Frieda. xx

Frieda · 09-02-2013, 05:14 PM

Thank you for the kind words, even though virtual, it means a lot. It's been a crazy few days, lots of grief, lots of stuff to take care of, and lots of sleep. the ceremonial things will be on friday. pfft.

Brynn · 09-03-2013, 05:44 PM

We care about you, Frieda. It's been heartbreaking for the last year, and will be possibly your hardest loss ever, so I hope you get a chance to grieve fully. Know that as your mom, she automatically loved you fiercely, and did a good job with you, because you are loved. I hope Friday is a good day to celebrate her legacy. Draw close to the people who loved her, love you, and all the other people she's reflected in. My heartfelt condolences.

Jack Flanders · 09-04-2013, 03:12 AM

Wow...Frieda. Stay strong.

brightpearl · 09-04-2013, 05:40 AM

Man, loss is so difficult to acclimate to.
My best friend lost her mom to cancer, too, about 5 years ago, and her dad just about a month ago. Her dad was a really, really difficult person, and her mom stayed with him all that time. When she was gone, my friend had to care for him of course, and she did very well. He was extremely high maintenance because he was very ill, but he was also very cruel sometimes. Now that he is gone, she is sort of re-living her mom's loss too...Perhaps it is really the first time she has had time to grieve.

There is just so much in it. Big love, big disappointments, big regrets. Resolutions about how you will do better with your own life, and then having to respond to your own shortcomings.

She is right where she should be now, alternating between okay and not okay, but there is all this family crap going on, and closing accounts, selling the house... She'll be all right, and I am so proud of her, but I wish I could carry more of it for her. It's all a universal pain, the kind we all feel at some point in our lives, and so we literally carry it together, but part of the pain of it is, ironically, feeling alone.

Wish I could carry more of it for you, too, Frieda. I think about you every time I talk to her. XO.

xfox · 09-05-2013, 01:30 AM

Freida, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you. I hope you keep the memories of her close for now. You are the blossom for all seasons to come.

Coffee · 09-05-2013, 07:30 PM

Frieda...Words are completely inadequate.

/Hugs.

funkytuba · 09-06-2013, 02:48 AM

Thinking about you Frieds

08-25-2013, 05:29 PM	#1711
Frieda in limbo Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 19,504	thanks everyone, i really appreciate your kind words-- it helps a lot! __________________ zoek waar je wil, maar het zit in jezelf oh yeah

08-30-2013, 06:42 PM	#1712
Frieda in limbo Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 19,504	Tomorrow will be the hardest day of my life. Pfft. __________________ zoek waar je wil, maar het zit in jezelf oh yeah

08-31-2013, 12:42 PM	#1714
Frieda in limbo Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 19,504	My mother passed away this morning, it went very quick. She was ready and calm. I'm so happy for her that she doesn't have to suffer anymore. I miss her so much. __________________ zoek waar je wil, maar het zit in jezelf oh yeah

09-01-2013, 07:18 AM	#1716
Frieda in limbo Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 19,504	^thank you, it helps.. __________________ zoek waar je wil, maar het zit in jezelf oh yeah

09-02-2013, 05:14 PM	#1719
Frieda in limbo Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 19,504	Thank you for the kind words, even though virtual, it means a lot. It's been a crazy few days, lots of grief, lots of stuff to take care of, and lots of sleep. the ceremonial things will be on friday. pfft. __________________ zoek waar je wil, maar het zit in jezelf oh yeah

08-31-2013, 12:21 AM	#1713
brightpearl Rhinoceros fan Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 8,749	^What's up? I think we can see your real heart around here, and it seems good, and strong. Whatever it is, you can learn to carry it. What can we do to help? Much love to you.

08-31-2013, 11:38 PM	#1715
Hyakujo's Fox left hanging Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: between the click of the light and the start of the dream Posts: 10,071	So sorry to hear that. I know what a strange and shocking place the world will seem like today. Nothing to do but to accept as you can, to feel as you feel and to endure as you must. I will be thinking of you. hugs and love to you

09-01-2013, 11:06 AM	#1717
brightpearl Rhinoceros fan Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 8,749	Hfoxy's advice is very good. I promise that the day will come when you can piece things back together a little, when your first thought of her is a happy one rather than a memory of illness, but for a while it will not be so, and that is okay. Just do your best. Really, you don't even have to worry about whether you are doing your best, because you just are. Find real people for real hugs, though I am glad our little virtual ones help a bit. I am thinking of you.

09-02-2013, 03:16 PM	#1718
YsaPur EsChomuw oi Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 5,208	I'm really and sincerely sorry. Lots of love and lots of hugs, Frieda. xx

09-03-2013, 05:44 PM	#1720
Brynn constantly amazed Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: in the labyrinth of shared happiness Posts: 6,206	We care about you, Frieda. It's been heartbreaking for the last year, and will be possibly your hardest loss ever, so I hope you get a chance to grieve fully. Know that as your mom, she automatically loved you fiercely, and did a good job with you, because you are loved. I hope Friday is a good day to celebrate her legacy. Draw close to the people who loved her, love you, and all the other people she's reflected in. My heartfelt condolences. __________________ 1. While sitting at your desk, lift your right foot off the floor and make clockwise circles. 2. Now, while doing this, draw the number "6" in the air with your right hand. 3. Your foot will change direction.

09-04-2013, 03:12 AM	#1721
Jack Flanders landscaping is fun Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: up river and down river Posts: 4,815	Wow...Frieda. Stay strong.

09-04-2013, 05:40 AM	#1722
brightpearl Rhinoceros fan Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 8,749	Man, loss is so difficult to acclimate to. My best friend lost her mom to cancer, too, about 5 years ago, and her dad just about a month ago. Her dad was a really, really difficult person, and her mom stayed with him all that time. When she was gone, my friend had to care for him of course, and she did very well. He was extremely high maintenance because he was very ill, but he was also very cruel sometimes. Now that he is gone, she is sort of re-living her mom's loss too...Perhaps it is really the first time she has had time to grieve. There is just so much in it. Big love, big disappointments, big regrets. Resolutions about how you will do better with your own life, and then having to respond to your own shortcomings. She is right where she should be now, alternating between okay and not okay, but there is all this family crap going on, and closing accounts, selling the house... She'll be all right, and I am so proud of her, but I wish I could carry more of it for her. It's all a universal pain, the kind we all feel at some point in our lives, and so we literally carry it together, but part of the pain of it is, ironically, feeling alone. Wish I could carry more of it for you, too, Frieda. I think about you every time I talk to her. XO.

09-05-2013, 01:30 AM	#1723
xfox slightly effective Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: >>> Posts: 2,404	Freida, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you. I hope you keep the memories of her close for now. You are the blossom for all seasons to come.

09-05-2013, 07:30 PM	#1724
Coffee Cheeses Save Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Floating Posts: 9,204	Frieda...Words are completely inadequate. /Hugs.

09-06-2013, 02:48 AM	#1725
funkytuba Spone to Proonerisms Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The Left Coast Posts: 4,531	Thinking about you Frieds __________________ ...and another handful of almonds

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