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eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 12:01 AM

This is really a topic we should be having clear conversation about, not just a negative comment every couple of minutes. There is a lot to learn from each of our opinions and I'd like for someone else to give a little more. hfys

priceyfatprude · 03-19-2003, 12:44 AM

No phone call = no thanks

I would rather have that than have someone lead me on.

I went thru this w/a guy who had a thing for me. I made it clear to him that I was not, nor would i ever be, interested in him that way. He said that was ok, we could still be friends. I didn't see how that could be possible, but I took his calls & tried to be his friend. Somehow, how much he wanted to bang me would creep into every conversation. (surprise, surprise)

I stopped taking his calls. Granted, I'm not usually home when he calls, but I feel that returning his call would give him that glimmer of hope that he needs to keep pursuing me.

And I don't feel that's fair to him. I'd never have sex with him, and it's impossible to spend time w/him as he's in Philly & I'm here. But even if we were in the same city, it would be counterproductive. I'm not interested in him that way. Period. Hanging out w/him or keeping up contact w/him would only be giving him false hope.

Some of my friends said I should tell him point blank exactly why he shouldn't call me anymore. While I can see the point in that, I don't think it's in anyone's best interest to be called up & told
a) how undesireable you are
b) exactly WHY someone doesn't want to go out w/you

No one needs their shortcomings listed for them, in detail. That's just wrong.

rmr · 03-19-2003, 12:51 AM

Elias you are a trip!!

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 01:04 AM

be sure that I don't plan on making a habit of ending relationships in this way--it's just like I said, the possibility of that coming up in conversation would be worth avoiding the call all together. I might mention, again that I recieved a call early enough in the morning to wake me up and then shortly thereafter.. another call. truthfully it kinda freaked me out. and again, the two calls late that night didn't help it any.

priceyfatprude · 03-19-2003, 01:10 AM

Yes. It was the 4am phone call, along w/the previous call I received @ 1:30am that sealed the nail in the coffin.

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 01:41 AM

I'd like to think that I'm not responsible for the fragile confidence of my every acquantance. I hadn't spent enough time with the person to feel at all invested in a relationship. Respect and attraction weren't present in the time spent. Simply making that many calls in a day and continuing is disrespectful to yourself. If anything, as a result of this she raised her standards and tolerance against those who obviously don't care for her.

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 01:50 AM

nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. and don't even try to come around on this one, you're ego just won't stand for it.

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 02:18 AM

nyc -> "Interesting how you proffer such choice of words."

fluff it up, nyc.. check your usage of 'proffer'--someone check me but I think the above line is pretty weak. What did you mean by it anyway?

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 02:27 AM

noxxville · 03-19-2003, 02:28 AM

waffling
Function: intransitive verb
Inflected Form(s): waf·fled; waf·fling /-f(&-)li[ng]/
Etymology: frequentative of obsolete woff to yelp, of imitative origin
Date: 1868
1 : EQUIVOCATE, VACILLATE; also : YO-YO, FLIP-FLOP
2 : to talk or write foolishly : BLATHER

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 02:30 AM

quote from earlier: "nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. "

noxxville · 03-19-2003, 02:31 AM

there's always room for Jell-O

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 02:35 AM

I think you're desparate to make a point and/or to back me into a corner on this one. You can't go to bed until you feel confident and obove all, on top of this topic. Listen, lose the sweatpants and go to bed. Nothing will be solved in you staying up past your bedtime.

noxxville · 03-19-2003, 02:37 AM

I like to feel obove people too. Don't leave me out.

eliasaltman · 03-19-2003, 02:38 AM

nobody 'waffled' and I feel this topic is really coming around to teach all of us something.. but for god sakes don't let yourself feel good about it.

03-19-2003, 12:01 AM	#31
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	well rounded This is really a topic we should be having clear conversation about, not just a negative comment every couple of minutes. There is a lot to learn from each of our opinions and I'd like for someone else to give a little more. hfys

03-19-2003, 01:04 AM	#34
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	first time for everything be sure that I don't plan on making a habit of ending relationships in this way--it's just like I said, the possibility of that coming up in conversation would be worth avoiding the call all together. I might mention, again that I recieved a call early enough in the morning to wake me up and then shortly thereafter.. another call. truthfully it kinda freaked me out. and again, the two calls late that night didn't help it any. Last edited by eliasaltman : 03-19-2003 at 01:08 AM.

03-19-2003, 01:41 AM	#36
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	we're not going to hell I'd like to think that I'm not responsible for the fragile confidence of my every acquantance. I hadn't spent enough time with the person to feel at all invested in a relationship. Respect and attraction weren't present in the time spent. Simply making that many calls in a day and continuing is disrespectful to yourself. If anything, as a result of this she raised her standards and tolerance against those who obviously don't care for her.

03-19-2003, 02:27 AM	#39
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	.. .. Last edited by eliasaltman : 02-28-2007 at 03:37 PM.

03-19-2003, 02:28 AM	#40
noxxville Disco Maven Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: NC...seriously....how did that happen? Posts: 2,024	waffling Function: intransitive verb Inflected Form(s): waf·fled; waf·fling /-f(&-)li[ng]/ Etymology: frequentative of obsolete woff to yelp, of imitative origin Date: 1868 1 : EQUIVOCATE, VACILLATE; also : YO-YO, FLIP-FLOP 2 : to talk or write foolishly : BLATHER __________________ Call that guy butter because he's on a roll!

03-19-2003, 12:44 AM	#32
priceyfatprude girthy pickles Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: under your desk Posts: 9,313	No phone call = no thanks I would rather have that than have someone lead me on. I went thru this w/a guy who had a thing for me. I made it clear to him that I was not, nor would i ever be, interested in him that way. He said that was ok, we could still be friends. I didn't see how that could be possible, but I took his calls & tried to be his friend. Somehow, how much he wanted to bang me would creep into every conversation. (surprise, surprise) I stopped taking his calls. Granted, I'm not usually home when he calls, but I feel that returning his call would give him that glimmer of hope that he needs to keep pursuing me. And I don't feel that's fair to him. I'd never have sex with him, and it's impossible to spend time w/him as he's in Philly & I'm here. But even if we were in the same city, it would be counterproductive. I'm not interested in him that way. Period. Hanging out w/him or keeping up contact w/him would only be giving him false hope. Some of my friends said I should tell him point blank exactly why he shouldn't call me anymore. While I can see the point in that, I don't think it's in anyone's best interest to be called up & told a) how undesireable you are b) exactly WHY someone doesn't want to go out w/you No one needs their shortcomings listed for them, in detail. That's just wrong.

03-19-2003, 12:51 AM	#33
rmr Moderator Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 10,595	Elias you are a trip!!

03-19-2003, 01:10 AM	#35
priceyfatprude girthy pickles Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: under your desk Posts: 9,313	Yes. It was the 4am phone call, along w/the previous call I received @ 1:30am that sealed the nail in the coffin.

03-19-2003, 01:50 AM	#37
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. and don't even try to come around on this one, you're ego just won't stand for it.

03-19-2003, 02:18 AM	#38
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	nyc -> "Interesting how you proffer such choice of words." fluff it up, nyc.. check your usage of 'proffer'--someone check me but I think the above line is pretty weak. What did you mean by it anyway?

03-19-2003, 02:30 AM	#41
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	she likes to be in charge quote from earlier: "nyc, cute.. as I have said earlier, yes. "

03-19-2003, 02:31 AM	#42
noxxville Disco Maven Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: NC...seriously....how did that happen? Posts: 2,024	there's always room for Jell-O __________________ Call that guy butter because he's on a roll!

03-19-2003, 02:35 AM	#43
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	early morning in nyc I think you're desparate to make a point and/or to back me into a corner on this one. You can't go to bed until you feel confident and obove all, on top of this topic. Listen, lose the sweatpants and go to bed. Nothing will be solved in you staying up past your bedtime.

03-19-2003, 02:37 AM	#44
noxxville Disco Maven Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: NC...seriously....how did that happen? Posts: 2,024	Re: early morning in nyc I like to feel obove people too. Don't leave me out. __________________ Call that guy butter because he's on a roll!

03-19-2003, 02:38 AM	#45
eliasaltman monkey Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: salt lake city Posts: 38	nobody 'waffled' and I feel this topic is really coming around to teach all of us something.. but for god sakes don't let yourself feel good about it.

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