this is dumb, but

in relationships, is it possible for two people to ever be equally as needy and receptive and reinforcing/validating, or is it always one person who is needy and the other is backing away and the roles switch, etc

or, is there anyway to get past inevitable unconscious power struggles in marriages/relationships/friendships

(even tho the latter is part of 'relationships' i just wanted to specify-- if the power struggle isnt inevitable in friendships then why not and how is that different, etc)