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Old 08-25-2013, 05:29 PM   #1711
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thanks everyone, i really appreciate your kind words-- it helps a lot!
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Old 08-30-2013, 06:42 PM   #1712
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Tomorrow will be the hardest day of my life. Pfft.
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Old 08-31-2013, 12:21 AM   #1713
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^What's up?
I think we can see your real heart around here, and it seems good, and strong. Whatever it is, you can learn to carry it. What can we do to help?
Much love to you.
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Old 08-31-2013, 12:42 PM   #1714
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My mother passed away this morning, it went very quick. She was ready and calm. I'm so happy for her that she doesn't have to suffer anymore. I miss her so much.
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Old 08-31-2013, 11:38 PM   #1715
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So sorry to hear that.

I know what a strange and shocking place the world will seem like today. Nothing to do but to accept as you can, to feel as you feel and to endure as you must. I will be thinking of you.

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Old 09-01-2013, 07:18 AM   #1716
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^thank you, it helps..
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Old 09-01-2013, 11:06 AM   #1717
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Hfoxy's advice is very good. I promise that the day will come when you can piece things back together a little, when your first thought of her is a happy one rather than a memory of illness, but for a while it will not be so, and that is okay. Just do your best. Really, you don't even have to worry about whether you are doing your best, because you just are. Find real people for real hugs, though I am glad our little virtual ones help a bit.

I am thinking of you.
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Old 09-02-2013, 03:16 PM   #1718
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I'm really and sincerely sorry. Lots of love and lots of hugs, Frieda. xx
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Old 09-02-2013, 05:14 PM   #1719
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Thank you for the kind words, even though virtual, it means a lot. It's been a crazy few days, lots of grief, lots of stuff to take care of, and lots of sleep. the ceremonial things will be on friday. pfft.
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Old 09-03-2013, 05:44 PM   #1720
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We care about you, Frieda. It's been heartbreaking for the last year, and will be possibly your hardest loss ever, so I hope you get a chance to grieve fully. Know that as your mom, she automatically loved you fiercely, and did a good job with you, because you are loved. I hope Friday is a good day to celebrate her legacy. Draw close to the people who loved her, love you, and all the other people she's reflected in. My heartfelt condolences.
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Old 09-04-2013, 03:12 AM   #1721
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Wow...Frieda. Stay strong.
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Old 09-04-2013, 05:40 AM   #1722
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Man, loss is so difficult to acclimate to.
My best friend lost her mom to cancer, too, about 5 years ago, and her dad just about a month ago. Her dad was a really, really difficult person, and her mom stayed with him all that time. When she was gone, my friend had to care for him of course, and she did very well. He was extremely high maintenance because he was very ill, but he was also very cruel sometimes. Now that he is gone, she is sort of re-living her mom's loss too...Perhaps it is really the first time she has had time to grieve.

There is just so much in it. Big love, big disappointments, big regrets. Resolutions about how you will do better with your own life, and then having to respond to your own shortcomings.

She is right where she should be now, alternating between okay and not okay, but there is all this family crap going on, and closing accounts, selling the house... She'll be all right, and I am so proud of her, but I wish I could carry more of it for her. It's all a universal pain, the kind we all feel at some point in our lives, and so we literally carry it together, but part of the pain of it is, ironically, feeling alone.

Wish I could carry more of it for you, too, Frieda. I think about you every time I talk to her. XO.
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Old 09-05-2013, 01:30 AM   #1723
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Freida, I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you. I hope you keep the memories of her close for now. You are the blossom for all seasons to come.
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Old 09-05-2013, 07:30 PM   #1724
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Frieda...Words are completely inadequate.

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Old 09-06-2013, 02:48 AM   #1725
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Thinking about you Frieds
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