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[JesusTitties]

does a friendly smile really make a difference anymore when you are living and working in a metropolis. im not talking asscrack nowhere, im talking about downtown NY, toronto, los angeles, where ever.

does a friendly smile at a counter when checking food out at a store, or picking up a pack of smokes, at the indian working there - really make the city a better place. ive tried. maybe we all have. ive tried. but have had limited success. you would think that with all the bullshit and ignorant people that come in every day they would be thankful for a smile and pat on the back.
case in point, a woman, her husband and three kids at a restaurant i observe paying their bill. she wants to pay with her credit card at the counter, the young student female working the cash smiles and says "credit card today?"
the woman replies, "YES. HERE." and tosses it on the counter, while struggling with her oversized purse and poorly dressed husband smacking a lollipop.

made me want to stand up and punch her in the chicklets. i dont care if you make 100k or 10k a year, who the fck do you think you are that your life is so much busier than anyone elses, you cant afford to say "yes, credit, thank you.. here you go."

im getting out of my car yesterday to see a man in a business suit looking for change for the meter for his car, cant find it, i walk by and give him a 2oonie. here you go man, no worries, i said...its actually been in my pocket for like 2 weeks i didnt give a rats ass.
his reaction?
"thanks." expressionless.
sure, he acknoledged me and said thanks. but how often does a stranger toss you correct meter change, i dont care who you are, you say "wow, thanks man... "shake hands, do whatever it is you have to do.

i dont like you, anymore. and every day i can see how easy it is to lose faith in a simple matter of being polite as making a difference. whats the result?
go to any city and sit in the park on a lunch hour and observe.

the result is people walking aimlessly with their heads down, making a beeline for where ever they are going, if they can get there without making eye contact of having nothing to do with anyone, then their day is just a little less stressful.

take me back to japan.

[masterofNone]

if i wanted your opinion, i would of given it to you, you absolute horror of a human being.

do not acknowledge me.

yeah. civility is really a lost art aint it?

[JesusTitties]

yeah i dont really like her that much.

edited.

[masterofNone]

so civility is conditional... can you list the conditions where and when civility is expected of us? just so we don't piss jesus off...

[JesusTitties]

civility, which was never mentioned only referred to in the original post - is to each their own. as a society we are allowed to generate a list of things we prefer, people we choose to deal with and a circle of trust that is hand picked by our own up bringings.
what makes things as big as a society, great, are the small attributes that surround those things. Or, the things as small as an internet message board, where you will always find someone who has nothing really to say, but sure can find ease in chastizing whats been said.
Either/or, you will find all walks of life- and my original post expressed my deterioration of the fact.

[masterofNone]

'kay. thanks for clearing that up.

[JesusTitties]

no worries, you made it easy.

[zenbabe]

[priceyfatprude]

Originally posted by JesusTitties
someone who has nothing really to say, but sure can find ease in chastizing whats been said.

I love you, JT.

I try to be as nice as I can to cashiers, waitstaff, etc. I know what it's like to be on the other end of the stick. You remember the a$$holes who threw their credit cards at you. Sometimes a nice customer can make your whole day.

[Audreyvgs]

[Hermione]

I agree with you JT.

[Phlarm]

You know, I wouldn't mind hearing a little more 'pleases' and 'thank-yous' at all. I don't know what has crawled up everyone's asses, but it really pisses me off at how society is these days. I guarantee you, everywhere I go, whether it be a grocery store, a fast food place, wal mart, anywhere--it seems that I'm always the 1st one to say, "Thank you, have a nice night." Why is this?

There's this greeter at walmart that has no expression on his face whatsoever and he never says anything to you while you're either walking into the store, or leaving. WTF? He's a ****ing GREETER. I swear, people are hiring the rudest employees these days.

Tonight, my mother and I went to PetCo (where the pets go, obviously), and we were standing in line for about 20 minutes trying to purchase some 'spray-that-won't-make-your-cat-shit-by-the-back-door-repellent'. I didn't know what the hold-up was, but I tried being patient. Once we finally got up to the counter, the cashier was really nice, although not too bright, but I overlooked that. Right as I was beginning to pay, this one lady comes up to her and shows her a price tag thing that she found and started explaining that the cashier was wrong that she should get the better deal or whatever. OOOK...right away, I was more than pissed. Did she not see that I was in the middle of buying something and that she had lost her turn? Get to the back of the line, bitch! I thought that was so rude, she didn't even say, 'oh, excuse me, I'll just be a second.' Ugh...

You can't even hold open a door for anyone anymore without them ignoring you like you were 'supposed' to do that, like they're that much better than you. Sometimes, I'm really sick of being nice b/c it's so unappreciated.

[zenbabe]

Talk about wasted breath and effort. I wholheartedly AGREE. The only reason I don't behave like those people is I fear becoming them more than having to endlessly encounter them, 24/7/365/ In Perpetuity Throughout the Universe. I am merely civil to most, and genuinely, but sometimes cautiously, warm to some. Only a small number unfortunately make unabashed love, attention, and protection. But I try to increase the smallest number as much as possible each day.
CUE SUNSHINEY CARE BEARS WARM FUZZIES MUSIC AND F/X
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[Audreyvgs]

at risk of being smurfy, I do believe in one random act of kindness every day, I could change things.

Like charity. 40% of my work is charity. On some of it, tho, if anyone finds out I did it, or I tell anyone I did it, it doesn't count. Having my name printed as a thank you in the back of a brochure makes it not count. The other stuff is bizniss.

Altho, I have been heard to tell people that actually suggested I do their art for free, because it would be good publicity, "PUBLICITY IS A BILLBOARD IN MANHATTAN, AND I WILL NOT CONSIDER LESS."

[zenbabe]

there is nothing better than a secret kiss in a secret garden......