The problem lies in me.

[beckstra]

So, I've come to the conclusion that I am a moron...especially when it comes to the "art of boy" (thanks ang). Monday was a much better day than Sunday (whew). No hiding, no emergencies, no craziness...just a little more "prarie dogging" and a whole lot of eye contact (and big smiles, and blushing until I turn purple).

Then, naturally, when it comes time to leave (because his shift ends when mine does), I make my fast getaway so I don't have to embarass myself by actually being confronted with the fact that I have no idea how to talk to him. It's not aloofness...it's actually fear. I ended up feeling like a sack of crap (my stomach litterally turned itself inside out) the last half hour of work because I was actually...afraid. I don't know what of, there's just flirting going on. I think I'm just setting myself up for failure before anything happens because that's just how it's always happened for me.

So, long story short, I'm a moron.

[Klynne]

Wow,

Give yourself a break. You have to learn how to relax. Everytime you try something in life, anything, you are setting yourself up for success or failure. Lets face it, everything you attempt, you will succeed in or fail, right? And a bunch of failures will eventually lead to success, because you should learn from your mistakes...Anyway, how are you going to find out if it would work or not if you keep running away? Enough from this arm chair psychiatrist.

[surflugen]

I would bet he is doing the same thing. You should at least allow him the chance to ask you out but you might be better off, if you really like him, if you did the inviting. Take a chance and go for it. Falling is 99% of learning to surf. You can not surf untill you throw yourselve down the face of a wave and learn to deal with getting up and controlling it instead of leting it controll you. Besides it is only water. What is the worst that could happen, I don't think you will drown in this situation.

[JesusTitties]

if i told you what "prarie doggin it" means up here in canada i bet you wouldnt of used that term

[God]

You can run but you can’t hide from love, dumpling.

here is some text that might be of interest to you.

[priceyfatprude]

A few more weeks of the silent treatment & he will think you don't like him.

As you're walking out, ask him what he's up to that night. If he turns the question on you, then answer him.

[Klynne]

Originally posted by priceyfatprude
A few more weeks of the silent treatment & he will think you don't like him.

As you're walking out, ask him what he's up to that night. If he turns the question on you, then answer him.

Perfect PfP. She should say if she has nothing going on "No, plans, would you like to go out and grab (me, just kidding) a beer, coffee, soda, (beverage of choice here)"

[AllegroNg]

But if he does ask, make sure you count to 5 (in your head, silly:P) before you answer

[zenbabe]

Beck,

definatly give yourself a break, I know how it is to have a crush on someone that doesn't know your alive, so here is my advice:

Insult him!

You will be wearing his boxers around your living room within a week....

[Deviate]

< start niceness >
one thing i have learned is that people, after time, get bored with no change in a relationship status and move their attention else where. i mean, why keep pumping a dry well? (bad analogy, i know)

i know you know this, but the best things are worth taking a risk for. and you are strong enough to endure a possible tongue-tied conversation, and you'll also be able to endure it if he's not interested.

but oh, what wonderful things you'd miss out on if you let him pass by. take a chance, darlin'. you're an amazingly sweet, intelligent and pretty girl; you can do this.

< /end niceness>

[Dark Chocolate]

Let me tell you a secret, Becky: guys aren’t mind readers. You have to make it OBVIOUS that you like him.

The double entendre or flirtatious insult works. Eye contact is good. If you’re nervous, that’s okay- that’s natural, when you have a crush on someone. Chances are, he’d find it sexy that you have a crush on him.

Turn on the smile. Grip inside yourself. Life is flimsy, girl, and love is something you can hold on to.

Throw a paper airplane into his cubicle.

[Coffee]

Originally posted by Dark Chocolate
Let me tell you a secret, Becky: guys aren’t mind readers. You have to make it OBVIOUS that you like him.
......
Throw a paper airplane into his cubicle.

Please permit me to reinforce the sagacity of both of these suggestions.

*REINFORCING BOTH SUGGESTIONS*

Adding the reminder that the 50's are dead...ask him out for a drink Becks, and above all be yourself!!!

Aint spring time wonderful!
*Remembers a lovely flower*

[zenbabe]

Hey Beck!

If he isn't wearing any green today, pinch him in the arse and tell him it's his own fault!!

[dinzdale]

Originally posted by Dark Chocolate
Throw a paper airplane into his cubicle.

...or your panties....


Just a thought...

[Madmack]

Another point of view.. Remember that he might be feeling as awkward about things like this as you do...
Nothing worse than the 'not knowing, but letting your mind go and fearing the worst but hoping for the best' situation.
You'll never know unless you try... But you're the one who has to do it.. Go for it.!