Be careful what you wish for

[nycwriters]

Have you ever wished for something and then gotten it and wished you'd never wished for it at all? (can I say wish one more time in this sentence?! bah).

For example, I was whining last week because I wasn't busy enough at work and this week, whoa, knock me on my butt, one-armed paper hanger, kind of week. Busy, busy, busy.

So tell ... what did you wish for that you later regretted?

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Originally posted by nycwriters
Have you ever wished for something and then gotten it and wished you'd never wished for it at all? (can I say wish one more time in this sentence?! bah).

For example, I was whining last week because I wasn't busy enough at work and this week, whoa, knock me on my butt, one-armed paper hanger, kind of week. Busy, busy, busy.

So tell ... what did you wish for that you later regretted?

Quite honestly, to get married. When I was young and idealistic I thought it would be so romantic to make a lifetime commitment. I knew even then that I was a poor prospect for a permanent half of a pair, but I liked the idealism behind the concept.

I don't know, at this ripe old age, why in the world anybody would have married a hardheaded, stubbornly independent woman like me, and I don't know what I was thinking. He swears it's been wonderful, but I don't know how he puts up with me.

My husband is a darling man. And he practically lives for being married. He's such a fine family man. He loves the whole lawn-mowing, school-play-attending, family vacation-taking agenda. And I love him for worlds. It isn't that there's anyone else. I've told him time and again that if anything happens to him, I'll never remarry, and I mean it.

But I don't like being married. I prize my solitude, cherish peace and quiet, treasure the inspiration that comes from silence. I want to do like Georgia O'Keeffe and move out to New Mexico and do my art and visit him occasionally, like Georgia visited Steiglitz.

I know how to earn money, make household repairs, pay bills, make decisions, handle crises and balance finances. I resent having regular dinnertimes, "issues" to discuss and inlaws. And I want the TV to stay on baseball when I put it there!

But he is such a sweet fellow....

I'm so impossibly selfish!

I like what Kate Hepburn said on marriage: "Men and women should live next door to each other and visit often."

[madasacutsnake]

When the Gods want to punish us they answer our prayers. Motto I live by.

[nycwriters]

Yes but Kate dated Spencer was was wont of sleeping curled up out in the hotel hallways, in front of their room door, when he was on a bender.

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Originally posted by nycwriters
Yes but Kate dated Spencer was was wont of sleeping curled up out in the hotel hallways, in front of their room door, when he was on a bender.

True enough, and had it not been for Louise she'd probably have married him.

I probably am just disappointed because my marriage didn't turn out to be a cliffhanging codependent disaster like I was raised to expect. Our family is very big on tradition. LOL!

[rmr]

ok...i always wished that I'd get to live in New York City. *cough*

it's not exactly what I had imagined.

[nycwriters]

dude, you'll be fine. seriously. just breathe.

and check your pms.

[Magpie]

This question reminds me of something I heard frequently in Native American 'pre-cememony' instruction. It's real common for the Medicine Man to say a few reminder do's n' don't prior to beginning the ceremony and they usually included,

"don't pray for a patience or a man...you just might get what you ask for"

(patience meaning, you'll get 'lessons' that will force you to learn patience)

[AllegroNg]

Originally posted by nycwriters
and check your pms.

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That there's not a wish I would make, but ok...

[nycwriters]

Ha!

i wish ed i could be rich, famous and sucessful and tehn i got it and now im lonelly at the top and relized their is more ot life than moeny

[nycwriters]

Wow, how'd you get drunk with only $5 in your pocket. Oh wait, nevermind. So I'm gathering you went out then?

dewd're you dense

[nycwriters]

If you say so.