Do you embarrass easily? - ZEFRANK.COM

zenbabe · 11-26-2002, 04:41 PM

You're FACE SAVING: Embarrassing yourself in public makes you feel that you have let yourself down badly, and so you feel compelled to take immediate action to restore your social credibility and to regain public approval. After all, you have an image and a reputation to protect! You do this by either becoming "verbal" with an apology coupled to an excuse, or by using humour to deflect the situation. This is accomplished by a witty remark, or by smiling (the most common response of this group), or by laughing. Using humour in its different forms is a face-saving mechanism for you, but also a generous social tactic for everyone else involved, as it reduces the stress and anxiety created by the embarrassing event. And if you laugh first, you are no longer the butt of the joke - the incident diminishes.

I make excuses or smile to hide the shame!

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Frieda · 11-26-2002, 05:06 PM

same here.. i'm a face saver!

masterofNone · 11-26-2002, 05:45 PM

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5) You are trying to chat up a good-looking guy/girl at a party, when suddenly you fart very loudly. You: a) Resist an impulse to flee by taking a sip from your drink, and then look coolly around the room while pretending that nothing has happened. b) Laugh and make a joke of it! c) Put your hand to your mouth and look momentarily stunned, as your face starts to blush.

huh?

I thought the site sponsor and subject was the most interesting part.

Deviate · 11-26-2002, 05:49 PM

me too, although i don't agree with their analysis of the situations. i'm sorry, if i come to a table with my fly down i would crack up 'cause it's funny, not because i feel shame.

not that i don't embarrass. it's just things they put on the quiz are not things that regularly embarrass me.

-st.

dickieC · 11-26-2002, 06:35 PM

Ah yes, that'd be me then. If it were an Olympic event, I could blush for England.

beckstra · 11-26-2002, 06:39 PM

As far as I'm concerned, it didn't happen!

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You're IN DENIAL: Embarrassment makes you feel as if your composure is threatened: you wish that you could simply disappear, or that the earth would swallow you up. However, you cover for this extreme internal reaction by externally "distancing" yourself from the situation - "denial" is another word for it! You manage this by reducing eye contact: turning away, lowering your gaze, or covering your eyes with your hands. Or you may simply not say anything or you may just walk away (as many men do). All of this serves to increase your psychological distance from others, as you try to pretend that the embarrassing event never occurred - however, observers may not be amused, as they mistake your 'coolness' for 'aloofness'. Next time say something to acknowledge your embarrassment (such as an apology) to regain the approval of others.

amanda · 11-26-2002, 11:01 PM

:Puts dickieC down for "Blushing Event. Representing: England":

May the reddest person win.

RuneT · 11-27-2002, 06:38 AM

As I thought, I am a face saver too. I can't think of any other actions that will get me out of embarrassing situations.

11-26-2002, 04:41 PM	#1
zenbabe Lollypop! Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: we are all made of stars Posts: 11,690	Do you embarrass easily? You're FACE SAVING: Embarrassing yourself in public makes you feel that you have let yourself down badly, and so you feel compelled to take immediate action to restore your social credibility and to regain public approval. After all, you have an image and a reputation to protect! You do this by either becoming "verbal" with an apology coupled to an excuse, or by using humour to deflect the situation. This is accomplished by a witty remark, or by smiling (the most common response of this group), or by laughing. Using humour in its different forms is a face-saving mechanism for you, but also a generous social tactic for everyone else involved, as it reduces the stress and anxiety created by the embarrassing event. And if you laugh first, you are no longer the butt of the joke - the incident diminishes. I make excuses or smile to hide the shame! Click here to take the embarrassment quiz! __________________ Be yourself, because the people that mind don't matter, and the people that matter don't mind. -Dr. Seuss

11-26-2002, 05:06 PM	#2
Frieda in limbo Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 19,503	same here.. i'm a face saver! __________________ zoek waar je wil, maar het zit in jezelf oh yeah

11-26-2002, 06:35 PM	#5
dickieC Professional ZeMonkey Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Back in Oxford Posts: 1,841	Ah yes, that'd be me then. If it were an Olympic event, I could blush for England. __________________ "Why do I keep falling in love with every woman who shows me the slightest attention?" Joel, ESSM

11-26-2002, 06:39 PM	#6
beckstra one classy broad Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: The Cornhusker State Posts: 1,229	As far as I'm concerned, it didn't happen! Click here to take the embarrassment quiz! You're IN DENIAL: Embarrassment makes you feel as if your composure is threatened: you wish that you could simply disappear, or that the earth would swallow you up. However, you cover for this extreme internal reaction by externally "distancing" yourself from the situation - "denial" is another word for it! You manage this by reducing eye contact: turning away, lowering your gaze, or covering your eyes with your hands. Or you may simply not say anything or you may just walk away (as many men do). All of this serves to increase your psychological distance from others, as you try to pretend that the embarrassing event never occurred - however, observers may not be amused, as they mistake your 'coolness' for 'aloofness'. Next time say something to acknowledge your embarrassment (such as an apology) to regain the approval of others. __________________ I'd rather be making out.

11-26-2002, 11:01 PM	#7
amanda old s'cool Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 2,426	AD HOC :Puts dickieC down for "Blushing Event. Representing: England": May the reddest person win.

11-26-2002, 05:49 PM	#4
Deviate Butt-F***ing the World Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: the other side of normal Posts: 5,863	me too, although i don't agree with their analysis of the situations. i'm sorry, if i come to a table with my fly down i would crack up 'cause it's funny, not because i feel shame. not that i don't embarrass. it's just things they put on the quiz are not things that regularly embarrass me. -st.

11-27-2002, 06:38 AM	#8
RuneT baaaaah? Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: No(r)way Posts: 4,733	As I thought, I am a face saver too. I can't think of any other actions that will get me out of embarrassing situations.

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