i think it's very rare that two equally needy people find eachother and both maintain equal neediness throughout the relationship
i think it's generally true that one person is needy when the other is backing away, the roles of each person always changing, so there's always that balance
i think maybe the only time it can be equal is after some event that equally affects both people: a death, doing drugs, making up after a fight, having sex, both winning something, etc. either way, only a temporary feeling of unity can make it completely even, otherwise one person is always up and the other is down, vice versa
do you agree/disagree/how do you feel about that/how has it or does it affect you?